SPONTANEOUS ROAD TRIP : BEST WEEKEND #1

I did not want to start by writing "How to Have the Best Weekend Ever" because I know there are so many ways people can enjoy their weekends. Some like to have quiet weekends, some like to have busy weekends, some like both. There are so many ways and so many things to do on weekends.

So, I decided to create this mini series where I share with you all of my best weekends. 

A couple of weeks ago, I took a spontaneous road trip with one of my best friends. See, me and spontaneity, we don't go well. I'm more of a Plan A, Plan B kind of person. Don't get me wrong. I'm flexible in a sense that I can follow other people's plans if my own plans don't work. However, spontaneity - not really. For example, if you wanted me to jump into a lake without thinking how cold it is, I probably won't do it. I am working harder at being more spontaneous though. 

Anyway, back to the point. 



Both of us didn't plan this at all. It was more like a conversation between me, myself and I.

Me: Oh hey. It's Friday today. What should I do? 

Also me: I wanna go on a road trip. 

Let me tell you. That was one of the most amazing weekends I've ever had in my entire life.



Here's what I did over that weekend:

1) Visited a desert for the very first time

2) Stayed in a very nice hotel

3) Beach (which is a MUST!)

I vlogged the whole thing. The video is down below if you want to watch what happened on that weekend :) Hopefully this will help some of you who are planning a weekend getaway or just planning what to do on your weekends :)

3 Easy Slip-On Dresses for the Weekend

Now, I'm not one to dress up during weekdays. I don't wear office uniforms, I don't wear specific outfits for work. I basically dress how I feel, look presentable and go to work.

That's why I think being a blogger has helped me realize my fashion sense a lot more.

Because, the thing is, I like dressing up and I also like dressing how I feel. So, put the two together - that's exactly my fashion sense.


I've got a couple of meetings to attend to and friends to meet over the weekend so I've put together 3 easy looks for this coming weekend.

Weekends are just that - easy, simple. Hence why I want my outfits to stay that way.

1. Off the Shoulder

2. Smart Casual

3. Soft

Happy weekend friends! x

The Difference Between Being Alone and Being Lonely

In one of my previous posts, I mentioned that I was going to update you on what's been going on as of late. Well, here it is.

Now, before I actually start, here's something you need to know about me. A very honest statement that I'm going to make right now.

No matter how a person reacts or treat others or how they look like, I always choose to see the best in people. No matter what. 

And I know that's something that will end up hurting or killing me in this dog eat dog world. But it's a trait I don't see myself ever changing. If you guys really know the amount of times I've been hurt, betrayed, lied to, cheated on....etc..., I'm sure you'll ask me:"Then why the hell are you still choosing to see the best in people?"

Even my parents, my family, my closest friends only have some idea of what I've been through. But anyway, I'm not here to talk about that.

Part of the reason behind this post is because I met a guy 4 months ago - or probably even more. For the sake of this post, let's just call him X.


Now, here's a brief description of X.

• mid-40's / 50's 
• no kids
• no wife (or probably divorced)
• no commitment - I mean, he could disappear tomorrow and no one would care
• sweet talker
• confident (sometimes comes off as arrogant) 
• businessman attitude - that's basically how he portrays himself.

From the moment I met him, I knew straight away that I couldn't trust him. Don't get me wrong. He made me feel really comfortable around him at first. But much like me, he's got issues of his own. I mean, every single one on this planet has got issues of their own - trust issues, commitment issues, anxiety.....etc..

Now, I'm not saying I'm an expert at reading people or that I have some kind of sixth sense, nor am I judging the man because let's face it, I am FAR from perfect and I don't deserve to judge people!

Anyway, X seemed like the kind of person who is lonely - which I completely understand. At his age, unmarried, no kids, absolutely nothing to go home to. He has nothing, basically. And don't get me wrong. I've met people like him - I mean, I've met loads of people in my walk of life. 

People are always saying that there is a difference between being alone and being lonely. I've only come to really see lately that there really is a huge difference. And there's nothing wrong at all with either of them. 

See, I'm mostly alone - I admit. 

My parents are living in different cities (countries), my closest friends are living far from me, my relatives are nowhere near me. You get the picture. I do have some good friends here but come on, they have lives of their own too. 

But here's the thing - I'm completely OK with being alone. I don't feel pressured. I don't feel weird when I eat alone or work alone or even go to the movies alone, for that matter. Yes, I know people may have opinions but I don't give two shits, honestly. 

And to be very frank with you, I enjoy doing things alone. I like how I don't need to have small arguments or talk about work or show my feelings to people (yeah, that's just me ok?). However, that doesn't mean that I don't enjoy good company because I really do. I love when I can have deep, meaningful conversations with people whom I click with and people whom I trust. For example, I don't need to explain myself much - and that's a really nice feeling! Hands up if you know what I'm talking about :) 

*Back to the point* 

X tells me he loves 3 women and how he's spending time with all of them. I can't help but feel sorry for the man. He is so lonely that he attaches himself to multiple women to get attention, to get happiness, to be loved by different women. When one woman is busy, he looks for the next. I would understand if these women are his friends but they're not. He has to hide everything he's doing when he's with one of the women. If that's not lonely, I don't know what is. I couldn't imagine living such a tiresome life every single day. 

After knowing a few sides of him, I realized that everyone acts out the way they do for a reason. A person could be taking out his/her anger on you because he/she had a rough morning - and that is not ok but just know that people act the way they do for a reason. 

And while me and X are not really that close, he did open my eyes to see the difference. 

When you're alone, you learn to enjoy your own company, you learn to have fun without being attached, you learn to be independent, you learn new things everyday. You're OK with everything - stress, love, work - you deal with them by yourself and you're completely fine with it. 

When you're lonely, you don't enjoy being alone, you crave attention, you desire someone to be with you (it's totally OK if it's one person, I understand - so does everyone else - but to desire multiple people at once - that's just plain lonely). You don't want to do things alone. You can't stand the thought of being alone. 

Like I said, this is probably just my opinion. The main point is that there is a HUGE difference between being alone and being lonely. And I hope you know how to tell the difference. 

My mind has been preoccupied with this the whole month because I want to try to understand people like X. I want to know that there are good people in this world. And listen, when you find a gem, you better hold on to that. 

20,000 PAGEVIEWS!!!

"Life is like a coin. You can spend it any way you wish, but you can only spend it once." - Lillian Dickson

Happy Friday everyone!

In my opinion, every Friday should be a day of celebration. Actually, I do have a few friends who would always throw a party every Friday night. I have tried doing that before but after a month, I got so exhausted throwing parties every Friday and decided to just attend parties instead (haha!). But yes, the weekend is finally upon us and no matter how many million times I say this, I still get so excited for the weekends! 

Anyway, speaking of celebrations.

I guess I do have one thing to celebrate today. Well, here's a fun fact. Because I have been a little bit busy with my life lately and slacking on my blog, I just found out that my blog hit 20,000 pageviews at the end of August, which is totally amazing!

I don't normally have aims of how many pageviews I can/want to get (as you can tell because I'm just writing this post now haha). I just write what I want on here and share whatever I want (as you can tell from the structure of my blog and my writing form). I've always treated my blog as a little online diary of mine. But yes, it's totally amazing that you (all you lovely readers) would stick with me and read my posts. 

I'm honestly very happy and grateful for this. I think I hit 10,000 pageviews at end of April not long ago. 

I love every single one of you who reads my blog and leaving comments and sharing. Honestly, it means the absolute world to me to know that I'm not the only one having bad days or going through tough times. BIG HUGS! 

Since all of you have been so amazing, I've decided to share 5 current things about myself that you DO NOT know about. Trust me, it isn't as interesting as you might think but just thought I'd share them anyway.

1) I downloaded Pokemon Go on the 19th of September and have been obsessed ever since. I am currently at Level 15, if that interests you at all. Haha!

2) I do not have a SnapChat account. I know I know! I'm probably the last person on this planet who do not own one!

3) I love my 2 dogs so very much even though they give me headaches sometimes. I just love them to bits!

4) My circle of friends can be considered "small". I wouldn't say tiny or huge but I think small is the right term. I read a quote last year: "the less people you hang out with, the less bullsh*t you deal with" and I've been applying that to my everyday life ever since. And believe me, it's true and it works. 

5) I am in a long-distance relationship right now which pretty much sucks. I mean, no one on this planet likes to be in a long-distance relationship and no one deserves to be in one. But my boyfriend and I are OK. 

*Oh yes. It gets more and more personal once a milestone is achieved. Haha! Not that my personal life is that interesting but I just like my readers to know more about me :)* 

TGIF! Have a great Friday! X 

5 HOMEMADE MOCKTAILS TO TRY THIS WEEK

Greetings all you lovely people out there!

It's 10:30pm where I am right now, which means my weekend is almost over. Now, I'm not really the type of person who only lives for the weekend - I used to be but I'm not anymore (at least I don't think so).

I think I've mentioned this a couple of times in my blog already actually. I see Sundays as a day of relaxation and pampering. I also mentioned in last Sunday's post that I want to make Sundays more fun instead of sitting on my lazy bottom like a couch potato. I think it's OK, sometimes, to go to the extreme to make Sundays fun but not every single Sunday :) Because after all, Sundays are meant to be rest days.


*back to my little blog post*

I've been really loving mocktails at the moment. Not too sure where that obsession came from but I just feel nice not being tipsy or drunk every time I drink. Mocktails are basically non-alcoholic cocktails. So, instead of vodka or whiskey, etc, soda water or fruit juices, etc, will be substitutes. Hence, the word "MOCKtail".

In my previous post, I mentioned that I made a couple of mocktails for my slumber party. I tried making some more today and perfecting some of the recipes that I messed up that night. So, I'm going to share 5 mocktail recipes with you - one mocktail for each day :) Or you can have all 5 in a day (only if you really want to though).

These recipes are super quick and easy. Literally, all you need to do is mix together all the ingredients provided below. You can enjoy them on a cool, breezy evening or a blazing hot afternoon. Either way, they're just amazing. However, the recipes that I'm sharing with you is only made for 1 person. If you're looking to make a larger amount, just multiply the ingredients by the amount of people you're serving :) So, here goes.

MONDAY: VIRGIN MOJITO

I feel like you need something strong to start your week. Virgin mojitos are great to kick start your week. Depending on how strong you want it to be, you can alter the amount of lime juice used in the recipe. However, I feel like I need a bit of a strong, bitter beverage to kick start my week :)

- 2 cups water
- 1 teaspoon white sugar/brown sugar
- 7 pieces of mint leaves, chopped
- 2 tablespoon lime juice (this is the part where you can alter)
- 1 cup club soda
- mint and lime slices (to decorate)



TUESDAY: CRAN-APPLE CIDER

Second day of the week - still a long way to go. You still need something a little strong to get you through the week. Apple cider gives out a slightly sour taste. Some might actually find it slightly bitter. If you find it bitter, you can choose to add a little sugar for this. I, however, didn't add any sugar because I felt like everything was just nicely combined.

- 1 cup cranberry juice
- 1 cup apple cider
- sugar (optional)



WEDNESDAY: COCONUT AND CUCUMBER COBBLER 

It's almost Thursday - come on, we can do this! For me, Wednesdays are a little blend and mundane for me. It's like half of the week is gone but you want the day to be over quicker. Is that just me? Haha! But it's also the time to get ready to chill out. This drink is actually quite blend but it gets you ready for the next few days :D

- 2 cups coconut water/coconut juice
- 2 cucumbers, sliced very thinly
- 1/2 tablespoon lime juice
- pinch of sugar (optional)
- 4 mint leaves, chopped



THURSDAY: SPARKLING SANGRIA

So close to Friday - YES! Time to sweeten things up a bit because we've all had a tiring week so far. Personally, I love Sangria cocktail as it is. However, I wanted to try a non-alcoholic version and see what it tastes like. And it's just as amazing as the cocktail itself! THIS IS SUPER EASY TO MAKE!

- 2 cups sparkling grape juice
- 1 tablespoon orange juice
- 1 apple, sliced
- 5 grapes, sliced (and leave some for decoration)



FRIDAY: FAUX CHAMPAGNE (MY FAVOURITE!) 

OMG TGIF! Weekend is finally upon us! No other better beverage to celebrate the weekend than a glass of champagne :) This is my favourite mocktail out of the 5. It just gives out that Friday feeling. I know it sounds insane, considering it's just a drink, but this faux champagne is literally one of the best things I've ever tasted, and I'm not just saying that because I made it. Do give this one a go :)

- 1 cup Ginger ale/ginger beer (although it's called beer, it doesn't really have alcohol in it)
- 1 cup Lychee drink/white grape juice (whichever you can get hold of)
- 1 cup orange juice/pineapple juice (this brings out the champagne colour)
- Frozen grapes (to decorate)

There you go. My 5 easy and simple mocktail recipes for you to try this week. Hope you guys enjoy it! X

GIRLS' NIGHT IN

Good evening my lovely readers

First of all, my sincere apology for disappearing on you for a week. No explanation there. However, I have been planning loads of exciting things and exciting posts for the upcoming weeks. So, do stay tuned for those :)

Meanwhile, one of my exciting things started last night - as you can already tell from the title.

YES! A LITTLE GIRLS' NIGHT IN SESSION ON A FRIDAY NIGHT!

Because we all love Friday nights, don't we?

I wanted this session to be chilled and relaxed and quiet. Since Eunice was having her day off from work, we decided to plan this little session together.

I haven't really had a "girls' night in" before. Like, I never really got to hang out with any of my girl friends and chilled for a night - talking about boys, work, movies, etc. So, I really enjoyed it last night.

In today's post, I would just like to share a few things I've done last night to make a "girls' night in" more exciting and enjoyable than just a casual drinking session with your girl friends.


1) Get a Takeout 

I feel like getting takeout is always a much easier and better option than cooking and being exhausted from all the work in the kitchen at home. Eunice and I opted for some Thai food last night because it's been quite a while since we last had Thai food (for me anyways). And also because I just freaking love Thai food, don't I?

For food, as well, I feel like snacks such as crisps and sweets are a MUST on occasions like these. Because when we talk or when we watch TV, there's always going to be something to munch on :) So, we both laid out some crisps and apples on the table.

2) Transform a Room

In other words, your setting. I transformed my sitting room area into a cozy little nest where both of us could lie down in, chill, take pictures and watch TV. It's just nice to transform a room that you've lived in for years into something completely different.

3) Manicure 

I feel like a "girls' night in" session isn't really complete without throwing in a girly activity. Eunice has a massive shoe-box collection of nail-polishes. She decided to paint my nails and I opted for more summery colours and went for polka dots nails :P They just look so fun.

4) Mocktails and Cocktails

I mean, this is literally why girls would have nights in with their friends. To drink and bitch about the next person (not really though). But the drinking part is true :) So, I made a few mocktails for us to drink and we also had some alcoholic cider.

All in all, it was such a good night. I really enjoyed it. So, I hope this post will help you in planning your next pajama party/slumber party or anything else you want to call it. Also, it's just a really fun thing to do on weekends.




Have a lovely weekend X